Today’s Random Thought

Debriefing: Looking back is how you get better. Making the same mistake twice can be avoided.Debrief after everything. What we did wrong, what we did right and what we can do better next time. If you messed up figure out what you should have done differently. Or ask, so you'll avoid it next time.

Gaslighting is a power struggle. It's emotional abuse that pressures you to doubt your own memory, observations, or beliefs so you'll defer to theirs instead. People can disagree without gaslighting. Common signs include denial, diverting from the facts, invalidating your concerns, guilting, lying, or accusations of overreacting. The aim isn't just to win an argument; it's to make you distrust what you directly observe.It ain't easy, but stay calm and self-controlled.1. Listen without judgment. Notice when the exchange shifts from facts and debate to efforts to undermine your basic understanding and beliefs.2. Stay calm and confident. Focus on shared goals, trying to collaborate and problem-solve.3. Decide if the convo is just poor communication skills or is really a power play.4. If questionable, establish limits and take space. Opt out of power struggles and arguments.Healthy minds know it's allowed to disagree. People can see the same situation differently. You control you, and your beliefs. Learn some new skills on triggers and dealing with conflict. You don't have to accept gaslighting.